Feeld for Singles: Navigating a Couples-Heavy App

You've heard about Feeld—the dating app for the curious, the open-minded, the ethically non-monogamous. You've also heard it's full of couples. As a single person, you might wonder: is this app even for me?

The short answer: absolutely, but with caveats. Feeld offers something most dating apps don't—a community that doesn't assume monogamy is the default, that welcomes diverse desires, and that allows you to be explicit about what you want. But navigating it as a single person requires different strategies than what couples use.

This guide is specifically for singles. How to set up your profile, how to handle the inevitable couple attention, how to find other singles, and how to stay safe while exploring.

Is Feeld Right for You?

Before diving in, let's figure out if Feeld matches what you're looking for.

Feeld Might Be Perfect If You:

Want something beyond mainstream dating Feeld's user base skews toward people who've thought intentionally about relationships—whether that's ENM, kink, queer connections, or just a more open-minded approach to dating.

Are curious about non-monogamy Even if you're not fully ENM, Feeld is a great place to meet people who are open to various relationship structures.

Identify somewhere in the LGBTQ+ spectrum Feeld handles gender and orientation with more nuance than most apps, allowing for bi, pan, queer, fluid, and other identities.

Are interested in kink or exploration The Desires feature lets you signal interest in specific kinks and experiences in ways mainstream apps don't allow.

Don't mind couples in your feed You'll see them. There's no getting around it. If that bothers you, Feeld might frustrate you.

Feeld Might Not Be Ideal If You:

Want strictly monogamous connections While monogamous people use Feeld, the app's culture skews toward openness. You might find better luck elsewhere.

Are looking for rapid, high-volume swiping Feeld's user base is smaller and more niche. If you want hundreds of matches quickly, it's not optimized for that.

Are uncomfortable with explicit desires Feeld users are often more direct about what they want. If that level of openness makes you uncomfortable, consider whether you're ready.

Have zero interest in ever engaging with couples They're a significant portion of the user base. You can filter somewhat, but you'll still encounter them.

Setting Up Your Single Profile

Your profile is everything. Here's how to optimize it as a single user on Feeld:

Photos That Work

Do include:

Clear face photos (no sunglasses, no group shots as your first photo)
Full body photos that represent you accurately
Photos showing you doing things you enjoy
At least one photo that shows your vibe/personality

Avoid:

Only selfies
Photos where you can't be identified
Provocative photos as your first image (save those for later in the gallery if at all)
Photos with exes cropped out (we can always tell)

Writing Your Bio

Your bio should accomplish several things:

1. Show personality Generic bios get generic responses. Be specific and let your voice come through.

2. State what you're looking for Are you open to couples? Only interested in singles? Looking for casual or serious? Be clear.

3. Include conversation starters Give people something to message you about. A question, a specific interest, an unusual detail.

Example bio for a single person:

"Documentary filmmaker, amateur baker, professional overthinker. I'm on Feeld because I'm curious about people who don't fit neatly into boxes—myself included.

Looking for singles who are interesting, kind, and can hold a conversation. Open to couples if there's genuine connection with both people and everyone's on the same page about expectations.

Currently reading too many books at once and always looking for the best breakfast sandwich in the city. What's your go-to order?"

Choosing Your Desires

For singles, strategic Desire selection helps with filtering:

Select your genuine relationship style interests (casual, ongoing, etc.)
Include specific experiences you're open to
If you're open to being a third, you can signal that in Desires
Be honest about kink interests if relevant

Choosing Your Interests

Interests help you connect beyond intimate compatibility:

Include real hobbies and passions
Add specific rather than generic interests
Include things that could be date activities
Show range across different parts of your life

Handling Couple Attention

If you're a woman—especially a bisexual woman—you will receive a lot of attention from couples. This is the reality of Feeld. Here's how to handle it:

If You're Open to Couples

Screen carefully Not all couples are created equal. Look for:

Genuine profiles with individual personality
Clear communication about what they're seeking
Signs they've done their homework on ethical dating
Willingness to see you as a person, not a prop

Set the pace You're one person; they're two. Don't let couples rush you. The right couple will match your pace.

Ask questions Before meeting, understand:

How long have they been ENM?
What are their rules and boundaries?
Have they done this before?
What happened with previous thirds?
What are they actually looking for?

Trust your gut If something feels off, trust that feeling. There are plenty of couples; you don't need to settle for ones that give you bad vibes.

If You're Not Open to Couples

State it in your bio Be clear: "Single seeking singles only" saves everyone time.

Use filters when available Feeld's Majestic (premium) tier allows more filtering options.

Decline politely A simple "Thanks, but I'm focusing on connecting with singles right now" is fine.

Don't feel obligated You don't owe anyone your time or attention, regardless of how nicely they message you.

Navigating Unicorn Status

If you identify as a unicorn (a bisexual person, often a woman, who dates couples), some specific considerations:

You have value Good unicorns are sought after. Don't settle for couples who don't treat you well.

State your expectations What do you need to feel valued? Communication between dates? Inclusion in planning? Make it clear.

Avoid couple privilege dynamics Watch for couples who prioritize each other at your expense or treat you as a "guest" in their relationship.

Develop unicorn community Other unicorns can be great sources of support, advice, and referrals for good couples.

Finding Other Singles

Couples dominate many Feeld feeds. Here's how to find other single users:

Profile Signals

Look for:

Profiles that don't mention a partner
Individuals who aren't linked to another profile
People who explicitly mention seeking other singles
Solo photos without wedding rings or couple references

Use Filters

Feeld's filtering capabilities help:

Filter by relationship status if available
Focus on specific genders/orientations that align with what you're seeking
Narrow geographic range for more relevant results

Be Patient

The single-to-couple ratio varies by location and time, but couples generally outnumber singles on Feeld. Accept that you'll likely see more couple profiles than single ones.

Consider Premium

Majestic membership offers additional filters and features that can help you find singles more efficiently.

Look for ENM Singles

Many singles on Feeld are in open or poly relationships but dating separately. They might be listed as "single" but have a partner who's also dating. If that works for you, it expands your pool significantly.

Safety for Singles on Feeld

Safety applies to any dating app, but there are Feeld-specific considerations:

Privacy Settings

Hide from friends/contacts: Feeld offers options to reduce the chance of matching with people in your phone contacts. Use this if privacy matters.

Control your visibility: Adjust settings for who can see your profile and when.

Photo privacy: Consider what your photos reveal about your identity and location.

Identifying Fakes and Scams

Red flags for fake profiles:

Too few photos or only professional-quality images
Immediate escalation to off-app messaging
Vague profiles with no specific details
Pressure to share personal information early
Suspicious link-sharing

Red flags for problematic couples:

One partner is clearly not involved or enthusiastic
Refusal to video chat before meeting
Pressure to meet immediately
Unwillingness to answer basic questions
Requests for explicit photos before meeting

Meeting Safely

General rules apply:

First meetings in public places
Tell someone where you're going
Have your own transportation
Trust your instincts

Special considerations for meeting couples:

Meet both partners together first
Don't go to their home for a first meeting
Be cautious about private settings until you've built trust
Have a check-in plan with a friend

Making Feeld Work for You

Here are strategies for single users to maximize their Feeld experience:

Approach It as a Different Experience

Feeld isn't Tinder or Hinge with extra features. It's a different culture with different expectations. Approach it with curiosity rather than frustration.

Be More Intentional

With a smaller user base, quality matters more than quantity. Take time with profiles you're interested in, and send thoughtful messages.

Embrace the Specificity

Feeld allows you to be explicit about what you want in ways other apps don't. Use that. The more specific you are, the better your matches will be.

Engage with the Community

Feeld users often attend the same events, know each other through ENM communities, and overlap in social circles. You're joining a community, not just an app.

Be Open to Learning

You'll encounter relationship structures and desires you might not have known existed. Stay curious and open rather than judgmental.

Manage Expectations

You might not get as many matches as on mainstream apps. The matches you do get are often higher quality and more aligned with what you actually want.

Special Situations

If You're New to ENM

Feeld is a great place to learn, but be honest about your experience level:

State in your bio that you're new to ENM
Ask questions when you don't understand terms
Go slow and communicate clearly
Read up on ENM concepts (relationship anarchy, kitchen table poly, etc.)

If You're Questioning Your Orientation

Feeld is welcoming to people who are exploring. You can signal "curious" or "questioning" in your profile, and the community generally meets that with openness.

If You're Kink-Curious but Inexperienced

Similar to ENM, be honest:

State that you're curious but new
Seek partners who are patient and experienced
Communicate extensively before engaging in any new activities
Take things slow

If You're Traveling

Feeld works well for travelers:

Adjust your location settings
Be clear in your bio that you're visiting
Specify if you're looking for one-time or ongoing
Look for locals who are experienced with travelers

Common Single User Experiences

"I'm Overwhelmed by Couple Messages"

You're not alone. Options:

Adjust bio to clarify preferences
Decline politely and move on
Take breaks from the app when it feels like too much
Consider premium for better filtering

"I Can't Find Other Singles"

Try:

Expanding geographic range
Being more patient with the process
Actively seeking ENM community events
Using other apps alongside Feeld

"The App Seems Slow"

Feeld's user base is smaller and more niche. This often means:

Fewer but more relevant matches
Slower but more intentional conversations
Less noise but also less volume

"I'm Not Sure How to Respond to ENM Profiles"

If someone is in an open relationship but dating separately:

Treat them as you would any individual
Understand their situation but don't obsess over their partner
Ask questions about their relationship structure if unclear
Respect any boundaries they've communicated

Final Thoughts

Feeld can be an incredible app for singles—if you understand what you're walking into and approach it strategically. It's a space for the curious, the open-minded, and those who don't quite fit the mainstream dating mold.

The couple attention can be overwhelming if you're not prepared for it. But with clear profile communication, solid filtering, and appropriate boundaries, you can find exactly the kinds of connections you're looking for.

Whether that's other singles who share your interests, couples you genuinely connect with, or simply a community that gets you—Feeld has something to offer. The key is knowing what you want and being clear about it.

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