The ENM Communication Toolkit

Navigate Ethical Non-Monogamy with Clarity and Confidence

Ethical non-monogamy isn't just about who you date—it's about how you communicate. The relationships that thrive in ENM are built on radical honesty, clear boundaries, and ongoing conversation. This toolkit gives you frameworks, scripts, and strategies for the conversations that matter most.

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Dating as a Couple: Ethical Approaches

How to date as a couple ethically, including pre-dating conversations, approaching others respectfully, handling different interest levels, and avoiding common pitfalls.

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ENM Glossary: Every Term You Need to Know

A comprehensive dictionary of ethical non-monogamy and polyamory terms, from anchor partner to veto power, organized by category for easy reference.

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Jealousy vs. Compersion: Understanding Both Sides of ENM

Understanding jealousy and compersion in ethical non-monogamy: what triggers jealousy, how to work through it, and how to cultivate joy in your partners' happiness.

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Kitchen Table vs. Parallel Poly: Which Communication Style Fits You?

Understanding the spectrum of polyamorous relationship styles, from kitchen table poly where everyone hangs out together to parallel poly where relationships stay separate.

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Negotiating Veto Power: Does It Have a Place in ENM?

Understanding veto power in polyamorous relationships: the arguments for and against, alternatives that better protect everyone, and how to build trust instead.

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Open Relationship Rules That Actually Work (2025 Guide)

How to establish boundaries, agreements, and rules in open relationships. Categories of rules with examples and frameworks.

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Setting Boundaries in Polyamory: A Complete Guide

How to identify, communicate, and maintain healthy boundaries in polyamorous relationships, including the difference between boundaries and rules.

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10 Questions to Ask a New Partner Before You Sleep Together

Essential conversations to have before becoming sexually intimate with a new partner in ethical non-monogamy, covering safer sex, testing, boundaries, and expectations.

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Scripts for the 'I'm Non-Monogamous' Talk: When & How to Say It

Word-for-word scripts for disclosing ENM to new dates. When to tell them, how to handle reactions, and what to say.

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The Ethics of Unicorn Hunting: What You Need to Know

Understanding why unicorn hunting is controversial, how to ethically seek a third partner, red flags for potential unicorns, and how to be a respectful couple.

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